The start of it all…..

So I’ve decided that if I’m going to blog about chastity, purity, and dating with a purpose, I feel like I should give the back story on how I came to be so passionate about it.  In my senior year of high school, I took a mandatory Morality class where we studied the Theology of the Body.  Up until that point, I had never really thought about my future relationship with my (future) husband.  It had never crossed my mind that the choices I make in current relationships could eventually cause damage in my marriage.  Now, if I’m being honest, I’m not the type of person who attracts a lot of guys, so I’ve never really had this become a problem, but it does make me think about things and put them into perspective.  This is why I really only want to date with a purpose.  I used to say ‘date to marry,’ but that’s recently changed.  When you date with a purpose, you’re looking towards the future for marriage, but are not absolutely absorbed in the fact that marriage absolutely must happen in the future of the relationship.  I think that sometimes, like in my current case, its okay to be in a relationship with someone you don’t see a future with.  I have a list of qualities that a guy must have for me to even consider dating (I’ll blog about that list later), and my current boyfriend has all but one.  My relationship with him has helped me learn so much, and not just about myself, but also about my relationship with God.  The one quality that he doesn’t have is that he isn’t Catholic, and that bothers me so much more than it probably should.  I knew this when we started dating, but I got involved in the relationship to test how important that one little item on my list really was, and I’ve learned that it’s almost as important as all of the others combined.  Without getting into this relationship, I wouldn’t have learned this and it could have caused soooooo many problems with future dating.  Like one of my biggest fears ever (besides getting raped and murdered, of course) is getting attached to someone I know that I shouldn’t be with.  I have a lot of random thoughts like this and will probably post the majority of them until I feel like I’ve establish a strong foundation about what I believe in regarding relationships, but I hope this first little bit made sense? I mean it did in my mind soooo……



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